Diane wrote:
>If you read
>studies done on this subject, you will see that the subconscious takes your
>words literally. It does not distinguish as to whether something is the
>truth. It just carries out whatever you say to it.
Never, ever, any scientific experiment was conducted where many subjects
were followed, social interaction was completely taped for later evaluation,
parental care was pre-determined down to minute details for comparison,
thoughts were recorded, etc.
That is found in self-help pseudo-scientific books only. Just like that
theory held by Nuerolinguistic Programming business consultants that states
that positive perspectives determine success in business. They disregard the
fact that if you bankrupt you must have ended up being much more
negativistic than successful ones would ever be, and that those sucessful
businessmen, even if starting out already positivist, may have held a more
positive outlook due to other success determining factors: background,
financial advantages, good product, good location, etc. There's no science
to it!
>This is why negative
>self-talk is lethal, or even jokes and sarcasm. If I say, "Oh, I'm such an
>idiot.
That lethal effect should cause many famous, rich, long-living comedians to
die, don't you think so? Whatever... Before you say "I'm an idiot" for the
first time, you have to act like one at least once! and that will have
happened long before your repetitions, and may be only the first in a
series. It seems to me that if you act like an idiot in the future it may
just part of your pre-existing repertoire. Assessing reality like this seems
to be more effective to me: " I sometimes act like an idiot, but sometimes
not. I'm not perfect, but if I notice any pattern in my 'idiotic' behavior,
I may be able to 'smarten' ( just made it up. Add it to your thesauruses
:-) ) it". No lies, no delusional negativism or positivism. Just facts! BTW,
what I did is pretty much RET-based, the kind of therapy I referred to
before.
Bye,
Caio
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