Dear Peggy, Lea Ann and co-vocalisters,
I agree with Peggy. But Lea Ann, for everything in your life you’ll have to find a form that is in tune with your personality. You cannot copy somebody else’s behaviour (just as cannot copy somebody else’s musical interpretation), you’ll have to find your own way of telling your ex-teacher.
Just to give you an idea: I am also not the type that finds it easy to tell people unpleasant things (or things of which I think they are unpleasant for them), even if I think somebody is not kosher. But I simply told my ex teacher I did not make much progress in the last time and that somehow ‘it’ didn’t work anymore. That was not too difficult to say. The only thing is, that you should not allow yourself to discuss with your ex-teacher, just block the discussion and say: I’ve made up my mind, this is my feeling and I cannot change that. (In a discussion you’ll always be weak, because your ex-teacher still has more knowledge than you, and you sound like a person you can easily manipulate ;))
But I think that this way of quitting is far better that lying: no matter whether your ex-teacher is a good or a bad person, she deserves to hear the truth. If she is a good person, she will think about it and she and her other students might benefit from it one day, even if you might have made a mistake. If she is a bad person (which I something else than a bad teacher), she deserves to hear the truth even more.
If you still think this is too difficult, you can also do it in written form, then you can be sure there will be no discussion.
Best greetings,
Dré
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