Everyone on this board has mentioned that loss of motivation, and goals not being met is a big reason for quitting, It has been my personal expereince that the teacher caused me to quit. My HIgh School teacher was a strict woman, perhaps even too stirct and blunt.Oftentimes I would go home crying over the remarks she would make. I really was trying hard,but it seemed as if nothing I did was ever good enough. After 8 long months with her, I couldn't take it anymore. I had to quit. I remeber thinking that I could count the number of times she ever said anything to positve to me on one hand with several fingers missing. So yes, sometimes it IS the teacher's fault.
Clarissa
--- In vocalist-temporary@y..., of > interest and those who quit out of frustration. on those who lose interest, > there's nothing you can do about them. best of luck to them in the next > thing they'll give up (that was nicer than 'screw 'em', my original thought). > > those who are frustrated are those who still want to sing. their > expectations, obviously, are not being met. if their expectations are > unreasonable, they'll never be happy. so, their expectations need to be > changed or, they need to quit. they need to be shown what they are most > likely to do best and how to get there (a bass who really wants to sing tenor > is more likely headed for frustration than success, for example). unless > what these people can do for real is ultimately as good or better than what > they initially wish to do, and they would be the judge of that, they will not > be happy ('be the best short, fat and bald guy you can be and don't worry, > some people like the smell of garbage' is not likely to be a big comfort to > someone who wants to be tall, dark and handsome, no odor). > > those who have reasonable goals that are not being met are either being > instructed incorrectly, too impatient or are working the wrong way to get > where they wish. obviously, someone who wants to sing like britney spears > but is being taught to sing like renata tebaldi, is not being instructed > properly. in this example, the teacher could be quite good and may well > have a better goal in mind for that student than the student does with regard > to vocal health but, this is that teacher's agenda which is very different > from the student's agenda. and of course this says nothing about the > teacher who doesn't have the ability to help a student towards their goal. > > achieving a goal requires a specific effort. if the effort made is > wrong, the results will be wrong too (thank you, maestro berra). if the > amount of effort is too little, the results will fall short and if the > efforts are too much, the results will also be wrong. (these notions seem > very obvious to me but, i often see people exhibiting a tremendous lack in > this understanding. instead of changing the wrong thing that they are > doing, they'll just keep doing the same thing, harder. does not wrong + > more effort = wronger? no wonder lazy people learn faster!) someone with > the right answer and no interest will be closer to someone with the wrong > answer and plenty of interest, more often. occasionally, someone with so > much enthusiasm and desire will have the vision to stumble on to something > great (bob dylan, seve ballesteros, the guy who invented the pet rock, etc.) > but, this is not the rule. > > mike
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